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The Ultimate Guide to Anal Plug Play

June 17, 2017 3 Comments

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Plug Play

When we first started playing with sex toys, we weren’t really sure where to start. We were filled with curiosity about so many different types of toys, and some so unique, we were puzzled as to their proper usage. However, when we saw anal plugs, we knew exactly where they’re inserted, but not so much as to the pleasure they would provide.

In today’s sex toy market, it’s easy to find a plethora of butt plugs. With such a wide variety of plugs available, it can make purchasing decisions somewhat difficult. “Is this plug too large for me?” “What type of material should I try?” Do I want to pay that much for a butt plug?” “Is it going to hurt?” These are some of the questions that raced through our minds as we started our adventure into the world of anal plug play.


If we’ve captured your attention thus far, we presume that you’re curious (at least slightly) about butt plug play. Keep in mind that we are all born with an anus, so why not give yours the attention it deserves?  If you have little to no experience with anal plugs, or anal play for that matter, you’ve stumbled on the perfect place to learn more. We’ve put together this comprehensive guide to help you learn about the various types of anal plugs and how they can work best for you.

Let’s get started…


First and foremost, it’s best to know and understand the anatomy of the anus before beginning any type of anal play. The anus is the opening to where the intestinal tract ends and exits the body. The anus starts at the bottom of the rectum and contains circular muscles also referred to as sphincters. These muscles form the wall of the anus and assist with bowel movements as well as keeping the anus closed. There’s 2 sets of sphincters: internal and external. The internal sphincter surrounds roughly 2 to 5 cm of the anal canal while the external sphincter is the outermost sphincter.

The anus has thousands of nerve endings and is the reason for such intense pleasure, or pain (it shouldn’t hurt if properly stimulated). When an anal plug is inserted, it stretches past both the external and internal sphincters and rests comfortably inside the anal canal or rectum. Once a plug is removed, the sphincter muscles will begin to tighten back up.

How exactly does an anal plug work?

Butt plugs are designed in such a way to ensure that anal play is both safe and pleasureable.  No matter what the plug’s shape or size is, you’ll find that each and every anal plug has a base, neck, and body. A plug’s base is flared so that it doesn’t get completely sucked inside. The last thing anyone wants is an unexpected trip to the emergency room to have a plug removed! Just past the plug’s base is the neck and is designed to help keep the plug in place. Once a plug is inserted, the sphincter muscles contract around the plug’s neck which helps keep it in the right spot. A plug’s neck can vary in circumference and is often much narrower than the plug’s base and body. Last, but certainly not least, is the body of the anal plug (some people also call this the bulb). The body of an anal plug is the main portion that rests past the anal canal inside the rectum. The plug’s body is responsible for adding fullness, stimulation, and overall pleasure while being worn. There are two important parts on an anal plug’s body: the tip and bulb. The tip’s main function is to help with initial penetration through the anus. An anal plug’s tip can vary in shape, but many plugs made for beginners are tapered allowing for easy insertion. The bulb is the bottom portion of the plug’s body and lies closest to the neck. The bulb is typically the widest part of a plug and helps keep the plug in place.

Alright, let’s get down to the nitty-gritty and explore the 'wide, wide world' of anal plugs…

For us, anal plugs have been a great addition to our sex life and we’ve had lots of fun using them together. Anal plugs can be used during solo play, foreplay, as a warm-up to anal sex, during sex, after sex, during a hot BDSM scene, at home, or while out on the town…the opportunities are endless! Anal plugs can be used by anyone and they’re not gender specific. If you have an anus (which you should), then any plug is a viable option. 


Choosing the right plug that’s suitable for you can be a daunting task considering they come in so many sizes, materials, shapes, and textures. Some plugs are very simple while others are more aesthetically appealing, and others may come with all sorts of “bells and whistles.”

Let’s take a closer look at the various aspects of anal plugs…



Choosing the right size is the perfect place to begin when selecting a new anal plug. Each and every person is different in regards to their level of tolerance, pleasure, or discomfort. Knowing what you can, or cannot, withstand will play a crucial role in the ability to have a pleasurable experience with an anal plug.  


  • Small Plugs (pictured above) are strongly recommended for anal plug/anal play novices. The last thing you want is to damage the muscles and walls of the anus by using a plug that’s too large. Although these plugs are small, they can provide some very intense sensations and pleasure.

  • Medium size plugs (pictured above) are a great upgrade option for people who are ready to add more fullness and depth to their anal play experience. Graduating to more depth and fullness can lead to even greater & intense pleasure. For people who’ve already experienced anal sex (but not anal plug play) often start with medium sized plugs since their body is already in-tune with anal stimulation.

  • Large/XL Plugs are definitely for the expert anal plug lover. Larger anal plugs are designed to stretch the anus and add an incredible amount of fullness in the rectum. For those who have experience with anal fisting, many times a large plug is used as a warm up beforehand. The Tantus Severin Large (pictured left) and Tex (pictured right) are very popular Large/XL plugs in the sex toy market.




Choosing the right material is also an extremely important factor. Butt plugs are made from a wide variety of materials. Each material type can produce very different, and unique, sensations. As a newbie to anal plugs (and in addition to using something small) you’ll probably want to have a material that does not overstimulate that beautiful little pucker. Most importantly, ALWAYS use body-safe materials! Some anal plugs have been produced using materials that contain phthalates and/or are porous. Plugs that feel and look like jelly should be avoided as they’re usually porous and not body-safe. Porous jelly materials can harbor lots of bacteria and can never be fully sanitized…even if you use the best toy cleaner or antibacterial/microbial soap.

We recommend the material types below as they’re all very popular, body-safe, and non-porous:

  • Silicone is one of the most popular sex toy materials available. Anal plugs made of silicone are a great material for anal plug beginners as they’re somewhat soft and have some flexibility/give to them. Additionally, silicone is non-porous and very easy to clean. Plugs that are made of solid silicone (not powered) can be boiled and are dishwasher safe. One thing to keep in mind about silicone, always use water-based lubricants with these plugs. Using silicone-based lubricants can cause damage to the plug’s silicone surface.

  • Metal is a very unique material and also extremely popular. Metal plugs are commonly made from stainless steel or aluminum and are perfect for temperature play. Both stainless steel and aluminum have a relatively high rate of thermal conductivity. This means that they can be cooled very easily and also can heat up to the temperature of a human body. Also, metal has no flexibility therefore you should have some sort of experience with softer butt plugs first. Stainless steel plugs are very unique due to their weight. You’ll often find that stainless steel plugs are slightly smaller in size, but the weight alone certainly makes up for it! When it comes to lubes, it’s completely fine to use water-based or silicone-based.


  • Ceramic plugs are also a very safe option. Ceramics are very durable and can maintain its features for thousands of years even when subjected to the forces of nature. Yes, ceramics can break, but with proper care they will last a lifetime. High quality ceramics are non-porous and will often have a special body-safe enamel coating making them waterproof and easy to clean. As for lubes, water-based or silicone-based work perfect. Some of the most gorgeous ceramic plugs are made by the company, Persian Palm. Pictured above are two of Persian Palm’s masterpieces: Maddalena Platinum Line (left) and Livia Classic (right).


  • Stone plugs are a bit more uncommon yet very fun to use. If you ever have an opportunity to try one, please do. When properly smoothed and polished, stone plugs become virtually non-porous and are completely body-safe. Much like metal plugs, stone plugs can also be used for temperature play so feel free to cool or heat it up under the faucet. Unlike silicone, these plugs are solid and have no give to them so it would be wise to first try a silicone plug. Also, feel free to use any type of lubricant with a stone plug. One of the most popular stone plugs available is the Laid B.1 (pictured above).

  • Wood is another material that is growing more and more popular. These types of plugs are typically hand-crafted and have a special coating on them which makes them non-porous. Wood plugs are very strong, durable, and can be used with any type of lubricant. NobEssence makes some great wood products, especially the Dare (pictured above)!


  • Glass plugs are extremely popular. These plugs can be heated, or cooled, making temperature play a lot of fun. One downside with glass, be sure to handle them with care. Plugs made of glass are durable, but they can crack or become weakened if dropped. Any type of lube can be used with glass plugs so feel free to break out your favorite lube! The Icicles brand makes some really great glass plugs and some of them are pictured above.



Choosing a suitable shape is also something you’ll want to keep in mind when choosing an anal plug. All-in-all, there’s roughly 3 main shapes to anal plugs. From our own experience, we’ve noticed that some are easier to insert than others. Some people love the challenge of warming up to larger (and rounded) plugs while others want to have something that is much easier to insert. Below are the 3 main shapes and are organized from easiest to most difficult to insert:

  • Tapered plugs have a tip that resembles the shape of a bullet. These are the easiest to insert since the tapered tip takes less force and effort to push through both the external and internal sphincter. On many tapered plugs, the body of the plug gets larger from the tip to the neck (see above).



  • Bulbed/Beaded plugs are very unique as they, often times, looks like anal beads with a butt plug base (as shown above). Many plugs of this type start out with a small bead/bulb and graduate in size as they’re inserted. Plugs like these can be a perfect option for beginners. Also, beaded/bulbed plugs can provide a more versatile experience as they can be used as a wearable plug or to massage and thrust through the anal sphincters. Using a plug to massage or thrust can often lead to a pretty amazing orgasm!

  • Rounded-tip plugs, in our opinion, are not ones we would recommend to beginners. Typically, the blunt tip is almost the same width (or diameter) as the rest of the plug’s body. These plugs take a considerable amount of relaxation in order for them to pass through the anal sphincter before resting in place. There are several shapes of plugs that have a rounded tip, some look like a ball with a base, some look like the end of a realistic penis, while others (like above) have a more oval body.



Choosing a suitable texture can also make a big difference in stimulation and pleasure. Some of the people we’ve had conversations with liked a smooth texture while others say it wasn’t all that great. On the other hand, some people think that textured plugs are the only way to go while others have said they felt slightly painful while inserting. Again, there’s no way to recommend one over the other as everyone’s tolerance is different. Trial and error is the key to finding the right texture for you. There are two main textures as described below:

  • Smooth plugs are a safe bet when starting out with anal plug play. Sometimes having too much texture can overstimulate the anus. In regards to silicone plugs, you’ll typically find two types of smoothness: glossy or matte. A glossy surface (pictured left) tends to appear very shiny. When a glossy plug is inserted or removed, it is quite possible to feel some drag and often require a bit more lube to remove the drag-like sensation. For plugs with a matte finish (pictured right), they tend to feel very silky. When matte plug is inserted or removed, there is often much less drag. As for other materials, a vast majority of them are extremely smooth.

  • Textured plugs (shown above) are a lot of fun once you’ve gained some initial experience using butt plugs. There’s a wide variety of textures available ranging from bumps, twists, grooves, and ribs. You can also find some textured plugs that look like a realistic penis and have a veiny texture. Each type of texture provides its own unique sensation. Tip: It can be a lot of fun to add variety to your anal play session by using different textured plugs in the same session.



Choosing plugs with unique features can also add some excitement to anal plug play. There’s been some very creative sex toy engineers that have designed some amazing and unique anal plugs. Often times, you’ll find that unique plugs are typically more expensive. However, if you can see past the price tag, you might be headed towards a mind-blowing good orgasm! Below are some examples of really unique anal plugs:


  • Vibrating plugs are those that have a built in motor that vibrates. Many vibrating plugs come with multiple speeds and/or vibration patterns. Some vibrating plugs have a rechargeable battery while others may require a small battery to be installed. The Perfect Plug Plus (shown above) has a removable vibrating bullet which is also a great feature! Vibrating plugs are also a wonderful way to massage the prostate.


  • Remote Controlled plugs can make solo anal plug play a great deal easier. Rather than having to reach between your legs to find a button you can’t see, simply have the remote in hand to change speeds and vibration modes. Remote controlled plugs are also a lot of fun to use together. Put the plug in, hand the remote to your partner, and let them control your pleasure! Shown above are the Nexus Ace Medium (left), b-Vibe Rimming Plug (middle), and the Maia Toys Eli (right).


  • Tailed plugs are very popular among people who are into kink and role playing. There’s a wide variety of tailed plugs including horse tails, rabbit tails, cat tails, dog tails, pig tails, or fox tails as shown in the picture above of the Master Series Untamed XL Fox Tail Anal Plug and the Tailz Grey Fox Tail Anal Plug. If you or your partner like the idea of walking on all fours pretending to be an animal, then tailed plugs might be a great addition to your toy collection.


  • Jeweled plugs are a great way to add some bling to that already beautiful backside. These plugs have a jewel inset in the plug’s base to add sparkle and additional visual appeal. This jeweled feature can often be found on stainless steel, aluminum, and silicone plugs (as pictured above). One of our favorites is the Master Series Jewel Butt Plug.


  • Motion balls are extremely unique. In fact, we could only find this type of plug by one manufacturer; Fun Factory. As pictured above, B Balls is a plug with two bulbs. Inside each bulb is a weighted ball. As you move when wearing this plug, the internal balls move around creating extra stimulation.


  • Flogger/plug combos are a great way to add some efficiency to a BDSM scene. With a combo like this, you’ll have the ability to turn a flogger into a tailed butt plug. With a durable tail, a gentle tug can add extra stimulation. We have experience using the Icicles No. 49 (shown above) and we really enjoy it. There’s nothing better than a good flogging followed by inserting the plug end!


  • E-stim plugs can be a very intense experience. Electrosex play is not something that is mainstream but is slowly growing more and more popular. Many people don’t even know it exists unless you’ve dabbled in the world of kink. E-stim plugs can be made from stainless steel, aluminum, plastic, or silicone. These plugs have built-in electrodes that are hooked up to a power (TENS) unit. When the TENS unit is powered, it sends an electrical current to the plug resulting in wide range of stimulation which is controlled through the power unit. Some great options for E-stim plugs include the Rocker (pictured left) & Aura (pictured middle) which are controlled by the Flick EM60 (pictured right).


  • Inflatable plugs are designed to add fullness...sometimes to the extreme. Inflatable plugs are definitely not a beginner plug and you should have considerable experience before using an anal plug like this. Inflatable plugs come in different sizes, some with fixed pumps as well as removable pumps like the Expander Inflatable Anal Plug with Removable Pump pictured above.


  • Anchor plugs are also designed for fullness and often used to stretch the anal cavity. Similar to inflatable plugs, these are not designed for a butt plug novice. Anchor plugs typically come in either silicone, aluminum, or stainless steel. Silicone anchors are inserted by squeezing the body of the plug together (see pic on right: Mini Ass Anchor Dilating Anal Plug). Once the plug’s body passes beyond the anal sphincters, the anchor opens up. For aluminum or steel anchors, they are typically closed while inserted. Once fully inserted, a button at the base is pushed resulting in the plug’s body to open wide. Many of the metal anchors are designed for BDSM play and often have a way to place a small key lock on it (see pic on left: Trillium Steel Locking Anal Plug) preventing the wearer from removing it unless they’re given the key. 


  • Tunnel plugs are another unique type of anal plug and are commonly used during a BDSM scene. These plugs have a hollowed center allowing access to the anal cavity. Tunnel plugs are a great addition to enema play as fluid can be poured through the hollow center. Plugs like these are often made from metal, but also available in other materials such as silicone or rubber (see pic on right: Invasion Hollow Silicone Anal Plug). Metal tunnel plugs often include a removable core allowing for the tunnel to be closed up (pictured left: Arsenal Aluminum Tunnel Plug w/ Removable Core).


Tips for a great anal plug experience

Wow! We’ve covered a lot of information about plugs haven’t we? Now that you know the various attributes of anal plugs, it’s important that you know how to get the most out of your plug. Here are 12 tips to follow to ensure your anal play experience is one that will keep you (or your partner) coming back for more!

  1. Prepare yourself. Anal play can get dirty from time to time which should be no surprise considering it’s where the poo goes. We recommend that you try to go to the bathroom at least one to two hours before play. Otherwise, it never hurts to wash up before playing. Whether it be a nice soapy wash rag, or enema, it’s always a considerate thing to do especially if your partner is involved. Yes, there will be times when a little bit of poop might be encountered, just be sure not to make a big deal of it.
  1. Clean your plug before using it. Whenever you get a new plug, or any sex toy for that matter, you should first make sure it is sanitized before using it for the first time. In doing so, it is one important way to ensure that you don’t get some sort of bacterial infection. If the plug has been used before, it’s always a safe bet to clean it even if you did after last using.

  1. Lube is your best friend...use plenty. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t produce any natural lubricants. Applying generous amount of lube will allow for easier entry. Our absolute favorite lube to use is Sliquid Sassy. This lube is especially thick which allows for better padding during anal play activities. One note of caution, stay away from desensitizing lubricants. These types of lubricants lessen the sensitivity to the area that they're applied. If you feel pain during anal play, something isn’t right. Reducing sensitivity reduces your ability in knowing something’s wrong.
  1. Take it slow. Before inserting the plug, either you or your partner can start out by simply massaging the entire buttocks and then work to the rim of the anus with a finger. Gently massage the anus with up-and-down, side-to-side, and circular motions. This will help make you more comfortable. Once you’re a bit more comfortable, try slowly inserting the tip of a finger into the anus and hold it in place for 10 seconds. By doing so, this will stimulate the anus and anal canal before moving to the actual plug. Once you’re ready for the plug, place the tip of the plug against the anus and slowly push the plug in. You will gradually feel the plug slide deeper and deeper. For plugs that have a narrow neck, you’ll know when it’s fully inserted as the sphincter muscles will begin to contract around the neck sucking the plug all the way in with only the base exposed. 
  1. Control your breathing. Try taking some deep controlled breaths. This will help relax you while something is trying to enter the anus. Often times, these controlled breaths create contractions in the PC muscles of the anus that can result in easier penetration. Relaxing your PC muscles should almost feel as if you were about to go poop…no worries, you likely won’t.
  1. Massage other areas of the body. Another way to make insertion easier is to have other areas of your body massaged simultaneously as the anus. If you have a partner involved in plug play, let them massage other areas to help you relax.
  1. If it hurts, stop immediately! It’s completely normal to feel some discomfort or pressure when using a plug for the first time. However, if you experience intense pain, something isn’t right. If this happens, try applying more lube on both your anus and the plug. Also, you may want to repeat the above relaxation tips 5, 6, and 7. If you still experience pain, you might just want to call it quits and try again another time. Don’t get discouraged, it will happen when the time is right!
  1. Communicate during playtime. If your partner is involved, always communicate with them. Tell them how they can help you. Your partner cannot always read your mind. For example, if the plug isn’t going in (and you know you can take more force), tell them to push harder. Or, if you can’t relax, ask them to massage your penis, breasts, or other body part.
  1. Have fun! Nobody wants to partake in any sexual activity and have it be dull, boring, and unenjoyable. Make the most of the situation and have fun! If you’re playing with a partner, try and make it a fun experience for both of you with plenty of laughter, eye contact, and healthy communication.
  1. Gently remove the plug when finished. A butt plug is not like a champagne cork. Make sure to remove the plug slowly and gently. The best way to remove a plug is to work your fingers between your butt cheeks and the base of the plug. Start by pulling at the plug while simultaneously breathing and clenching your pelvic muscles in the exact same way as you would if going to the bathroom. Eventually, the plug will slide out. For many people, including us, removing a plug feels absolutely amazing!
  1. Clean your plug again after play is over. Always, always, ALWAYS clean your plug after you’re done! Do not leave a dirty plug laying around as it will promote the spread of bacteria. Be sure to follow the cleaning directions so that your plug will last longer and so you remain healthy.
  1. Deliberate afterwards. If you are playing with a plug along with a partner, talk afterwards. Discuss the session’s likes and dislikes. Use that conversation to improve future plug play.


Well, there you have it! We’ve loaded you with tons of butt plug information and hope anal plug play is in your future. We’ve had some awesome experiences with anal plugs and anal play. If you’re curious about how we started, check out Our First Time With Anal Play. If you’re more experienced with anal plugs, hopefully we’ve helped expand your imagination to new types of plugs that you’ve never tried before. Looking for a plug of your own? Check out our line of anal plugs here.


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Robin & Liam

3 Responses


October 31, 2018

Great Article

Christopher Eldridge
Christopher Eldridge

June 19, 2017

That’s awesome article

Christopher Eldridge
Christopher Eldridge

June 19, 2017

Awes I me article. I emailed a copy to myself and my wife for reference in the future. Thank you.

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