Have you tried edging with your partner? From our own experience, we can say that it’s very intense but takes some practice to get it right. By now you’re probably wondering…what is edging? Edging is purposely ending sexual stimulation to delay, or stop, an orgasm from occurring. By doing so, especially for us, it often results in a more intense orgasm later on. Other terms for edging are orgasm control, or, orgasm denial. Edging has been around for a long time, especially amongst those that are involved with BDSM. Both men and women can practice edging and can be performed as a couple, or by yourself. When properly performed, edging can be an absolutely amazing experience!
Imagine the feeling of getting so close to orgasm…your hormone levels and state of arousal have reached their peak and you’re ready to explode. Suddenly, you or your partner stops what they’re doing, falling just short of orgasm. Due to this abrupt ‘shut down’, your physical arousal may decrease, yet, your mental arousal stays almost the same. You now realize you’re in a state of emotional bliss, but without the explosive orgasm. Sounds interesting, right?
Why would I want to do this?
Edging is practiced between partners for several reasons. Some of the reasons include:
How do I do this?
As earlier mentioned, edging takes quite a bit of practice. Before edging with a partner, we strongly encourage trying to master edging on yourself. By our own personal standards, we feel an edging session should last roughly 20 to 25 minutes.
Here are some steps to assist you in becoming an edging master on yourself.
Edging is a bit more difficult when performing on your partner. Using similar steps as above, you have the ability to control your partner’s orgasm. With proper communication, and knowing your partner’s reactions, you can determine when to cease stimulation.
Here are some steps to assist with mastering edging on your partner.
Sometimes when exploring new sexual roles and ideas, it often results in failure. Don’t get discouraged, simply take things one step at a time and keep practicing. For us, we tried a couple of times each week for nearly a month before we could control each other’s orgasms. Due to our own deep connection, we often passed the “point of no return” and ended up climaxing. If you’re looking for a really intense experience, work yourself or your partner through an entire 20 to 25 minute period, but end things without climaxing…it is very intense!
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