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Face Slapping: Is It Normal?

August 23, 2017

"My name is Salvador. I'm 42 and my wife is 37. On Sunday as we were having fun sex, she accidentally slapped my face I asked her to do it again. She was on top of me and had control of me. I have always enjoyed having my chest and back scratched and my butt slapped. I love it when we bring our little whips to fool around. However, this time it was different. I really enjoyed the face slapping. I could see in her eyes and facial expressions that she was also getting turned on doing it. I asked her to slap me harder and more frequently. It almost got us to climax together. Afterwards she said that she liked it but she rather be the submissive one. I really liked it and want to do it again but I don't know if she's willing to do it. Is it normal for people to ask to be face slapped? How do I get her to do it again?"

Hi Salvador,

Thank you so much for sending us your questions. They are really great questions!

First and foremost, let me answer your first question. Yes, it's absolutely normal to enjoy face slapping, or any other act. The main factor in any type of play is making sure that it is consensual. Face slapping is a very common fetish that many people enjoy. If you're like me, being slapped causes a high state of sexual arousal. This is due to your brain releasing endorphins which are carried throughout your body via neurotransmitters. Serotonin, one of the main chemicals your body releases, allows us to find enjoyment through experiencing some level of pain. Personally, I think it's awesome that you and your wife found something new that's a mutual turn-on and allows you both to climax!

As for getting her to do it again, I think the two of you need to sit down and have an in-depth discussion. Although she likes being the submissive one, I think it's extremely important for her to reciprocate your needs. My relationship with Robin is very similar, however, I'm typically the submissive. Although I'm the one usually getting slapped or spanked, Robin has asked to be the submissive one on occasion. We've found it to be very enjoyable to switch roles from time to time. I'm sure the two of you are already do an excellent job communicating, but feel free to read our article: Let's Talk About Sex!

Also, kudos to the both of you for expanding your sexual repertoire! I always find it fascinating when speaking with couples that have branched out to include some form of BDSM play. Robin and I started dabbling in the BDSM world in a similar way. It all started by some simple scratching and spanking. Eventually, we expanded by purchasing a cheap flogger and some bed restraints. Once we realized how enjoyable it was (and decided to expand our pleasure) we eventually sat down together on multiple occasions to find a safe way for us to proceed. With that in mind, feel free to read this: BDSM Negotiation & Contracts 101. You may find the article to be useful as it is very detailed and illustrates our own personal BDSM journey.

Please let us know if there's anything else we can do to help you out!

Best wishes,

Liam